• tori duhaime

Gratitude Doesn't Have to Come Without Criticism

I know gratitude journals and such are all the rage right now and rightfully so. It’s important to take a moment daily to acknowledge where we presently stand but I often hear people try to talk themselves or others out of critique or further demands with the “be grateful” mantra. Gratitude doesn’t erase issue.

You can be grateful for the people in your life and still need them to show up for you in different ways to maintain a healthy relationship.

You can be grateful to have a job but still acknowledge that the pay or atmosphere isn’t what it should be to sustain you or a healthy work environment.

You can be grateful for your privileges and still know that they are problematic and must be utilized effectively.

We can be grateful for the progress made thus far on issues that affect us and still demand that more be made because it isn’t enough.

We can be grateful to the land we stand on and still learn we are not doing enough to care for where we stand.

Gratitude is an acknowledgement and a lived function of such, but you are not exempt from progress at the point of graciousness. It’s not about saying “Thank you, but…” it’s about saying, “Thank you. Onward.” and embracing next steps.

As we enter the “gratitude” season, I invite you to consider your thanks not as an end point, but as a landmark in progress. There is no real arrival. We have found points in momentum and it’s important we take a moment to revel in such, but more important that we don’t settle because we fear being ungrateful.

Practice gratitude without withholding progress. Practice gratitude with momentum.


2020 Tori Duhaime

photographer + movement artist